It’s normal! There’s a lot of speculation as to why this happens to some people, and of course everyone is different, but the general consensus is that it’s a sort of emotional release that comes with the physical one.

- Kit

take some time to really consider your limits and comfort zone. are you okay with other people knowing? are you okay with getting a booty call in the middle of the night? is it okay for one of you to sleep over at the other’s place after doing the deed? can you have this FWB setup without developing romantic feelings for this person?

it’s all ultimately up to you.

- Kit

I don’t know, Anon. Love is kind of different for everyone, and there are all different types of love. I think you’re the best judge of whether you’re in love or not.

- Kit

Well, if he’s never tried anything flirtatious, I would say that’s a good sign that he’s decent. Mostly, just go with your instinct (we have them for a reason!). If he makes you feel uncomfortable, even if he’s not doing anything specifically weird, politely excuse yourself and leave. It’s really kind of up to your best judgment, you know?

- Kit

Couples counseling can work wonders for any couple, especially if you find a therapist that you both really like. However, for couples counseling to work, you must both actively want to improve the relationship. If just one person is willing to put in the effort, or one person is being dragged there, it’s not going to work and might actually make things worse.

I would discuss it with your partner before making an appointment, but it probably wouldn’t be a bad idea to research counselors in your area a bit.

Any followers have specific experiences with couple’s counseling?

- Kit

Some women just have chronic UTIs. There are a lot of reasons why; you could have a weak immune system, your pipes could be small or too close together, who knows. You’re doing everything right, it sounds like. You might also avoid taking baths (only take showers) and using any kind of product down there, if you’re not doing that already.

If you haven’t discussed it with your doctor yet, you definitely should. Chronic UTIs could be a sign of some deeper problem (nothing lethal, so don’t freak out).

Also, are you sure that they’re UTIs? It could also be a recurring yeast infection. Just trying to give you all the possibilities.

- Kit

The best advice I can give you is to just let go. If she doesn’t follow through, there’s nothing you can do for it, and hounding her about it will only make her more distant. It’s a shitty situation to be in, I know, but… Yeah. So if she’s gonna follow through, she’s going to, and if she’s not, she’s not and it’s best for you to just take a deep breath and move on. It’s not your fault if she doesn’t want to put in the effort.

- Kit

Unfortunately you can pull the grass but you cannot make it grow.

I’m sorry to tell you but you won’t be able to ‘convince’ her out of it unless she already is starting to see the same way. Just be there for her when she does realise and in the mean time minimise contact with them as a couple and when you hang out with her make it very clear that none of you want to see him for that duration.

Good luck

-Trip

I know this is a subject we cover a fair bit, I don’t use either in question so, once more,

Community - Thoughts? 

-Trip

It depends what you were using and how used to it you are - I’d say for a few days its probably a little normal to be in pain if you were too rough, if it persists head to your doctors!

~Trip

Use the balls of your fingertips or curl your fingers in and use your second knuckle on the fingers or likewise, the knuckles on your hand when you make a fist. It’ll also offer a nice massage effect.

-Rollins

Every type of birth control will always come with its own list of side effects, meaning they’ve happened to a significant number of people and they consider it a result of the meds. However, side effects don’t always apply to everyone. You might be hit badly by one, or not much by a few or you might be completely side effect free. If you completely cannot live with the side effects that may or may not apply to you, the only thing you can do is try changing birth control, but they could do the same. I’m on implanon which can have some pretty drastic results but I’m not affected at all. You’ll really need to just try your pills and see if they work for you or not, honey. Either way, I hope it works out for you!

-Becca

Mm, it’s a widely debated concept in the scientific community. Some say it can, some say it doesn’t affect your cycle at all. In my personal experience, my period does usually come a couple of days later if I’ve had sexual activity during that particular cycle.

So I guess what I’m telling you is that it’s possible, but not proven fact.

- Kit