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Anonymous said, "It is possible to get acne anywhere on your body where there's a hair follicle (which is, obviously, almost your entire body). So it's entirely possible to get acne on your vulva after you shave it (or even if you don't), if you are acne prone. Not trying to be rude/mean, just trying to clarify some information you posted earlier."

Let me also clarify: 

you may have acne in any area in which you have hair, but

the very act of shaving will not inherently cause acne.

-Plethorian



wowichangedmyurl said, "To shaving anon: conditioner (normal hair conditioner) works MUCH better than shaving cream imo. Also, a couple more pointers: wait at least a week between shavings, and if you wear pads, don't wear that "keeps you always dry" kind of pad because it'll itch like hell."


Anonymous said, "what are your own personal tricks for solving 24/7 food cravings?! without sounding like i dont eat because thats far from it ! (i tend to balance between 1000-1200 calories a day etc) but i feel like im always hungry and then i think that im actually bored rather than hungry but i dont know how to satifsy this feeling without eating every second of the day !"

I find it helpful to plan your meals ahead of time! In the morning, after you eat breakfast, pick out two snacks, a lunch and a dinner. Prepare it all and have it tucked away somewhere away from the other food (like a lunch bag, especially if you’re at school/work). Then, just make sure you only eat what you packed! It takes a bit of practice and guesswork to figure out how much or how little is enough for you, but that’s usually how I make sure I don’t lazy-snack all day long!

Mostly it’s self-discipline, though. You can do it!

-Plethorian



Anonymous said, "Feeling like an amateur here... is it normal to find it difficult to squirt? either from masturbation or actually engaging in sexual activity :( i feel like im missing out imo"

It’s different for everyone. Some people squirt fairly easily, some people die without ever having done it. It depends on the person, but mostly it’s just practice!

-Plethorian



Anonymous said, "Is it okay to shave your pubic area with a razor? Some people say they get like weird allergic reaction or break outs or smthing."

Who the heck told you that?! Yeah of course it’s fine to use a razor, it’s just hair, not like rabies or something. Just be careful and use lots of shaving cream or gentle soap. You’ll probably get ingrown hairs too but like….no, you won’t have an allergic reaction or acne. No. wtf. :P

-Plethorian



Anonymous said, "I'm getting a gyno done on the week of my period! I tried and tried to re-schedule it the week before but they didn't have any open spots, the week after that I go on vacation, should I just go to the gyno while I'm on my period? :'("

Did you tell them that you’re on your period? As I understand it, they can’t do a pap smear on your period because it affects the results.

- Kit



Anonymous said, "I have acne on my crotch. Is that normal? How do i get rid of it? Would it help if i shaved my pubic hair all gone? I don't like wearing bikini's anymore because i'm scared it'll ride up and people will see! HELP! :S"

Oh for chrissakes no don’t shave it all it’ll only make it so much worse

Some people are prone to acne in that area, especially since it contains so many sebaceous glands compared to other parts of the body. You may try an acne body wash, but I would also think it would be a good idea to bring it up with your doctor (or a dermatologist, if you can).

- Kit


1 day ago · 2 notes
#Anonymous

Anonymous said, "Okay so there's this girl I find attractive, and wouldn't mind trying things with. But she's been hanging with a friend and her friend is a "hoe" and I'm pretty sure she's picking up her friends actions. How should I handle this situation?"

First: Wow, please don’t call anyone a hoe. Ever. At all. Even “in quotations.” Just please don’t. It’s a word used (among MANY) to shame women for having lots of sex or sex at all. That’s not fair, it’s not nice, don’t do it. Let everyone have as much or as little sex as they want, date as many or as few people. Yeah? Yeah. Okay, moving on.

You are not responsible for your friend’s behaviour, and much as you might dislike it, what she does is her choice. She gets to choose how to live her life, just like you get to choose how you live yours. Here’s a link to an amazing ask Kit answered that I can never live up to, so just read that one. She said everything I want to say anyways. :)

-Plethorian 


1 day ago · 4 notes

Anonymous said, "i have a common but frustrating whine :( i can't orgasm and it's soooo annoying, like i can get myself to a point where i feel like it's so intense that i can't keep going but i don't ever feel like i've crossed any sort of orgasmic threshold or anything :/ and on top of that i have a harmless but irritating heart condition (i've been diagnosed) that seems to crop up whenever i'm masturbating and it's really distracting and throws me off. sometimes having a vagina is a pain in the ass sigh"

All I can say really is practice makes perfect. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself, either- that’s not going to help your orgasms or your heart condition. Give yourself a break! Your body’s trying its best, so just show it some love and a pat on the back(/vagina). :)

-Plethorian


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Anonymous said, "so im 15 and theres this guy i like that is 19 but hes turning 20 in a couple of months. im pretty sure he likes me to becuase he always talks to me and hugs me and opens car doors for me, hes just really cute but one problem is that hes my brothers best friend. he would probably be angry he found us dating (but were not) but my question is that can a 15 year old date am almost 20 year old?"

Legally? Yes. Can you have sex legally? Not if you live in the US. Would it be wise to date a 20 year old? I personally do not think so. As someone who is currently 20 and was once 15, and also dated a 20 year old when she was 15, I really wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. It’s not that either person is wrong or bad, it’s just that where a 15 year old is emotionally and where a 20 year old is emotionally are worlds apart. They’re both very emotionally immature and vulnerable in very different ways.

This question really hit home for me because just a couple of weeks ago I visited my SO’s family and spent a few hours with his 15 year old little sister, and WOW I TELL YOU WHAT 15 and 20 is a huuuuuuuuuge gap. This girl is worried about how she’s going to hide her Kool-Aid dyed hair tips when color guard practice starts up again and if she and her boyfriend will last through the summer, and I’m worried about how I’m going to pay for my car, when the Hell I’m gonna finally move out, if my current relationship is “the one” and what am I really doing with my life anyway am I a failure everyone else is better at college than me oh god please etc.

And I’m not saying that her problems aren’t important. I’ve been there, I know they are incredibly big deals to her. But the fact of the matter is, what a 15 year old wants/needs out of a relationship is veeeerry different from what a 20 year old wants/needs. 15 year olds are just experimenting, and have those flings of infatuation and their exciting and awkward new sexual experiences and like to hold hands in the hallway. As you reach your early twenties, it’s kind of the time relationships get “serious” and you both have jobs and college and everything in life is terribly uncertain and you want someone that can emotionally support you and be your best friend.

Plus, you should probably respect your brother’s feelings on this, because family is way more important than crushes and really short-lived relationships, you feel me? And you wouldn’t want your brother to lose his best friend over this. Best friends are important.

- Kit



Anonymous said, "Okay let's just say I'm a young girl, but my boyfriend recently just broke up with me over text message! Things got really nasty fast and there was drama. But I can't stop thinking about him and our memories, he was the first guy I had sexual experiences with and now I'm just confused and hurt and I need help!"

Ahh, the first heartbreak. It just takes time to get over it, I swear. Try not to obsess and work on doing nice things for yourself that make you feel good.

- Kit


1 day ago · 2 notes
#Anonymous

Anonymous said, "This might seem like an odd question, but just go with it. There is this guy I know, and he's 21. However, he still look like he's what, fifteen? No facial hair, no chest hair, very boyish body... When are boys fully grown? Will he live forever without facial hair, and with the body of a seventeen year old, or is he still growing?.. I swear to God I've had sex-ed, but I just don't get this."

Men and women don’t usually reach the end of their hormonal development until around 25. But it’s very common for many men to never have high testosterone levels, or particularly traditionally “masculine” features. Everyone comes in all shapes and sizes.

- Kit


1 day ago · 1 note
#Anonymous

Anonymous said, "My mom was just diagnosed with a terminal illness and given 2 months to live. I am beyond distraught. Her and I would always go on Sephora shopping sprees, ride around together, and she'd take me to Atlanta all the time bc she knew I loved the city. She was the best mother to me and I feel like I didn't appreciate it and I was always short with her. I feel so guilty for not always being nice to her. I don't think I can live with myself after she passes."

She isn’t dead yet, you still have her and you need to make the most of that, if you feel anything like that you need to tell her and if you feel you need to appologise verbally do it now, though i promise you she will laugh and tell you not to be silly because she loves you and thats what mums do! 

You have a time frame to do as much as you can do whatever that is that she wants. From anyone i was close to that died, my main though is I wish i could have told them explicitly how i felt and asked them explicitly anything they wanted me to know.

You have the time, do it now and dont linger on your sadness she is still here, you can also talk to her about that if you need - how does she want you to live for the rest of your life, whats her big advice for you, how does she want her Final Party to be like, does she maybe want a living funeral?

Ask all the questions so neither of you feel regretful or guilty, there is no reason to when you have the time, its tempting to mourn now you know what will happen but you can save excess sadness after because right now i’m sure its your mum more than anything that needs the cheering.

~Trip


1 day ago · 2 notes
#tw death

Anonymous said, "I work at a hospital (training to be an oncologist) and today was the first time I had to tell a a woman and her husband she has pancreatic cancer and 6 months to live. I didn't think it would ever be as hard as it was. Giving the news that's ending a life and destroying another. Does it get easier over time, or so I just need to get thick skin and cold now?"

Its one of those things, from what i understand, that you will get used too. Whether you get used to it now and grow some thick skin, or if you want to just get used to it over time is up to you i think.

Its ultimately about letting go - even now, you have no control over this out come, there is nothing you could do or else you’d be trying it. And on the other hand, what if you werent doing your job and she just experienced unmanaged pain as her time ticked down without being able to prepare her family et al?

I know your training but its better to experience this kind of thing earlier than later.

~Trip


1 day ago · 1 note
#tw death

Anonymous said, "My SO has recently put a pass code on his phone, tilts the screen away when he gets a text, or sometimes won't reply to a certain person or look at the message until I'm gone. Cellphones are honestly the bane of my relationship's existence, all the shifty behaviour that surrounds it is making me unnecessarily self-conscious, worried and jealous. :("

Ask him about it. Don’t waste your time and his by worrying away and having doubts and wrecking yourself. You deserve an answer, and you are not a bad girlfriend for being concerned about his behaviour. You’re allowed to ask, you’re allowed to look into any suspicious behaviour. Trust your gut, communicate. Set down rules for what is and is not okay. Tell him your feelings. Ask him to tell you what he’s feeling, what he’s thinking. Work together. Communicate.

-Plethorian