off-topic but you guys this is the reason we need to have a dash in our url

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Listen friend, I am also sixteen and have just as much hair in all of the places you listed. Not giving myself a foundation moustache haunts me every day. Chill out, it’s natural body hair!

-Becca

Hey! Firstly don’t sweat it! 19 is young man, come chill in the young corner over here!

You dont have to do or feel anything just because it seems like a lot of other people are doing it! Maybe your not ready! Maybe you haven’t spent much time on the subject! Maybe you’re even asexual!

Whatever it is, i suggest just chilling out with your existence and as long as your happy in life then stop thinking about it and crack on with other happy making things! 

If anyone asks, questions or judges you on it, inform them promptly the venn diagram of your life choices and their appropriate line of inquisition happens to be two seperate circles <3

~Trip

YES! It’s completely normal to go through no-sex periods. If you’re not really feeling it and neither is he, then that’s just how it goes. Your libido will come back and everything will be fine. Come back and ask us again when it’s been a few months, haha.

-Alyssa

I was homeless once anon, so I know what you’re going through. The best advice I can give you is don’t be afraid to ask for help. Contact local homeless shelters to see if they have any available beds. If you live in the US (not sure how it is in other countries), find out who to talk to about applying for food stamps and low-income housing, and there are even programs that will help you find a job. Find out where your local food pantries are. Go to the YMCA when you need to shower. Reach out on social networking sites like Facebook and Tumblr to see if anyone will let you crash on their couch.

I know how hard it can be to ask for help. Trust me, I know. But there are programs in place for people in your situation, and they see hundreds or even thousands of people just like you every year. They’re not going to look down on you, they’re there to help. Good luck and please let us know how you’re doing.

-Alyssa

As far as I know, that’s not normal. You should definitely go to the doctor, because something could be seriously wrong with your uterus/cervix. I’m sure it’s not life-threatening, especially if you’re only experiencing bleeding and no other symptoms, but it’s always good to get checked out! It could even be something as simple as loose tissue. Let us know what happens!

-Alyssa

That’s normal! They’re getting damp from your vaginal discharge. Everyone with a vagina has it, some just have more than others. Try using panty liners.

-Alyssa

Followers?

Sadly, YEP!

I personally don’t suffer from PMS but I know some of the other mods and a great deal of my friends do, it can be before after or during your period and can cause you to be mopey, tearful, overly attached, grumpy, anything! 

However if you feel its disproportionate suffering then please head to your GP and you could look at BC or other avenues to alleviate the woe - additonally if you do feel its disproportionate then it could also be something else but if it does only happen around menstruation/ovulation then I’d say its probably some variety of PMS

Love and cuddles to you dear

~Trip 

Hey lady, firstly, Hi5 on the mad sexual frustration - I swing everyway but I’m still in drought season.. 

Depending on your age you could try a NSA dating site (Like adult friend finder, fet life, killing kittens et al) additionally have you tried attending an LGBT meeting or clubin your area? 

Dating, fucking, relationships can be hard regardless of sexual identity, gender or preference so please know you are not alone!

Write in when you find someone and successfully do the duvet dive! 

~Trip

I’d be sorry if this hadn’t already happened at least three dozen times, probably more in the life of the blog that goes on longer than me.

I generally think we are a real sweet button tastic bunch of people answerin’ all these questions n shit but if you have to push us on the same thing over and over we aren’t going to be patient about it.

We also get questions that do get deleted because at least three times a week someone will ask something that has been answered twice recently and is also outlined in our faq

Update: Inbox lvl 47 

also, we have an FAQ

also please remember if you can’t wait for a few days for us to get to your question then please know you should be contacting an emergency contact like your GP, therapist, NHS direct, a hotline or a family/friend.

~Trip

This may sound rather bitchy and blunt, but I would tell your friend to get a grip and grow up. If there was a mutual decision for the relationship to end, they have no right to be angry, at either of you. Explain to them that you are content with the way things have panned out, and I think that if they’re really your friend then they should be able to accept it. Unless you’ve been hurt in some way by him, there’s no need for anyone to be angry at anyone, more so because your friend was not the one dating the boy. As for your family, literally all you have to say is ‘I broke up with him’. You don’t really need to go into more detail unless you want to.

Doubtless some of our other mods or followers will have different advice, but however you end up going abut it, darling, good luck!

-Becca