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Anonymous said, "Hello! Since yesterday, I've noticed some spotting on my underwear. Today I'm getting actual blood when wipe. I'm not supposed to be getting my period until the end of the week. Could it be bcz my bf & i had sex for the 1st time a couple of days ago?"

If it was blood from having sex, you would’ve seen it a lot sooner. Your period is probably just a little early. As much as I wish they were, periods aren’t like clockwork and there are a million different things that can affect your period. You have nothing to worry about :)

-Alyssa



laughterbynight:

an-angel-on-the-wing:

whitencranium:

thehopelesseccentric:

retasuneko:

punkrockluna:

frostfangs:

I saw this post by bi-privilege and I whole-heartedly agree with the notion that this is a preferable term or at least a good alternative to the LGTBQIAP+ acronym. No more people complaining about “how many letters are we gonna add”,
no more groups getting forgotten because someone is too lazy to type out the entire acronym,
and to me it has a more inclusive and equal feeling for all included groups.
Plus, as punkrockluna pointed out, MOGAI could also be used as an adjective replacing the word “queer”.
Queer is being used by a lot of people within the community but we should not forget that it is also a slur and not everyone is comfortable with being labeled or even labeling themselves as such.
I would absolutely love it if we could make this a thing. 
(I really really hope I didn’t forget anyone in the little description, please tell me if I have)

Re signal boosting

I like this!

I’m glad this is going around! I’ve seen MOGAI used before but didn’t know what it meant. This clears things up nicely!

A

This is extremely helpful

Awesome!

laughterbynight:

an-angel-on-the-wing:

whitencranium:

thehopelesseccentric:

retasuneko:

punkrockluna:

frostfangs:

I saw this post by bi-privilege and I whole-heartedly agree with the notion that this is a preferable term or at least a good alternative to the LGTBQIAP+ acronym.

No more people complaining about “how many letters are we gonna add”,

no more groups getting forgotten because someone is too lazy to type out the entire acronym,

and to me it has a more inclusive and equal feeling for all included groups.

Plus, as punkrockluna pointed out, MOGAI could also be used as an adjective replacing the word “queer”.

Queer is being used by a lot of people within the community but we should not forget that it is also a slur and not everyone is comfortable with being labeled or even labeling themselves as such.

I would absolutely love it if we could make this a thing. 

(I really really hope I didn’t forget anyone in the little description, please tell me if I have)

Re signal boosting

I like this!

I’m glad this is going around! I’ve seen MOGAI used before but didn’t know what it meant. This clears things up nicely!

A

This is extremely helpful

Awesome!

(via princesstroublebum)


12 hours ago · 13,093 notes · originally from frostfangs

tmistories:

a-better-m-e:

a-better-m-e:

My therapist told me instead of hurting myself I should draw something pretty were I want to cut. This is the result. And it works, honestly. If you’re struggling with self harm I really recommend this. (Make sure you use a marker and not a pen cause pens can hurt you! )

I’m reblogging this again because this technique really did help me stop self harming. Sure, I had some slip ups at the beginning but I’m 92 days clean now. All of the love I got from y’all certainly helped too! I hope this helped at least one other person recover or at least helped someone along the road to recovery. I would love to hear other techniques you guys have or your recovery stories! I love you all so much. Stay strong!

Just putting this on the blog because I know some of you are wanting to recover


18 hours ago · 84,130 notes · originally from a-better-m-e
#self-harm #recovery

Anonymous said, "Hello. I want to break up with my boyfriend; he's not mean to me or anything, I just think I could be with someone better. But we've been together for many years and we're such a massive 'thing' in our social circle. I know that if I dump him I'll never be able to see any of our friends without them constantly moaning about it and asking about it and stuff. I don't want to have to tell like 50 people individually to mind their own. Any advice?"

Is there anyway you can break your breakup news to all of them at once? Like on Facebook or a mass text? Just be like “Hey me and xxx broke up, we just weren’t working out anymore, don’t ask me about it” or something. If not then unfortunately it looks like you’re gonna have to deal with a bunch of people butting into your personal life, sorry. Good luck!

-Katya



Anonymous said, "My period is nearly 3 weeks late and i am worried, although i did not have any sex or lost weight. Could there be any other reasons for that?"

Stress, diet change, literally anything can make periods act weird, I wouldn’t be too worried about it, periods can just be finicky little bastards sometimes. If it’s something that’s really bothering you, go talk to your gyno.

-Katya



Anonymous said, "Does anyone have any recommendations for flavored condoms? I really wanna start giving blowjobs more often to my boyfriend but I think the cum is disgusting. Flavored condoms, are they also okay for sex or just stick with normal condoms? Thanks!"

I, personally don’t have any recommendations, but if anyone here knows any good ones please let anon know!

As for sex with them, I’ve heard many of them contain sugars in the flavoring and you do NOT want that going into a vagina/butt, it can lead to infection, so switch to a normal condom for penetration. Alternatively, you can use flavored lubes (though I guess that doesn’t really stop the cum taste, alas)

-Katya



Anonymous said, "Hey girls. I'm a grey-cupiosexual. And I'm in a really great relationship with a man I love a lot. I'm just really worried that if I tell him I'm a cupio, it'll lower his self esteem and he'll think I don't love him. Should I just keep this to myself?"

I think being open with your partner with all aspects of your identity is the best way to keep a healthy, happy relationship, else wise you’ll always be stuck thinking “oh he doesn’t know, he can’t know,” it’ll stress you out. And your sexual preferences don’t determine how much you love someone, so as long as he knows your feelings are real. If he doesn’t understand your identity, answer his questions and make sure he really gets it before he decides to act on this new knowledge. 

-Katya



Anonymous said, "Hii Im the girl with the ex that wont leave me alone! I spoke to him last night and made it extremely clear that I wanted nothing to do with him and he went off saying hes going to kill himself and its my fault blah blah blah. This is not ok, especially if hes kidding because suicide is no joke and I dont know what to do."

If you know any of his friends/family let them know he’s having suicidal tendencies, and that they need to check on him. None of this is your responsibility, even if he does end up killing himself. I’d say still ignore any of his attempts at contact. If his threats get more serious you can also tell the police that he may be attempting suicide, they can intervene if necessary. 

-Katya


1 day ago · 1 note
#anon #suicide #exes

Anonymous said, "What does it mean when a guy says he'll text you, and he doesn't? Me and this guy been talking for a while, and he told me he would text me and I waited and waited and he never did. It actually kinda made me sad , I guess."

Well most likely he forgot or something came up and he was busy, or there’s the possibility that he wasn’t ever going to text you back. But honestly it’s probably the first reason. If someone says they’re gonna text you but never does you should send them a message like “hey i thought you were gonna text me is something up?” or something, instead of being confused about what just happened and not doing anything about it. 

-Katya


1 day ago · 1 note
#anon

Anonymous said, "P1. So hopefully you remember me, I'm the one with the crush with my soccer teammate that has a boyfriend. So lately this crushing stuff has got me confused like there are moments when I want to be with her more than anything and then other moments when I don't crave her constantly, but I mostly wish for her o be near me. Anyways so the season ended yesterday, we lost our last game which if we would have won he would have gone to state but since we lost it ended our season"

P2. Everybody on my team was crying after the game, and when I saw her cry it broke my heart. She’s still dating that one guy and it sucks (for me). I want to get over her yet I don’t. I love how when I look at her my stomach is full with butterflies or how when we make I contact I get lost in her eyes. I never believed that shit was true when others said it but now I understand it. I’m afraid she’s not gonna talk to since the season is over and I wanna hang out with her but I’m afraid shes P3. I’m afraid she’s gonna find me annoying and clinging. I know I should just take a chance but I don’t know how she would react, she’s a senior so if word got around that I liked her I would most likely get hated on by a lot of people and I’m only a sophomore so I’d have to go through 2 years of it. I’m still confused on whether or not I’m lesbian or Bi but idc. I think I like her. I mean what I’ve felt towards guys is different than what I feel towards her. Idk if it’s a crush or admiration

No worries, I remember you! Well if you really want to to keep in contact with her, why not ask her if she wants to hang out sometime, or I dunno ask her if she can help you with some schoolwork if that’s something she could do. Basically establish a friendship with her, like you would with any other person. Find out if you have common interests and start with that. Just be sure to check your behavior that you’re not acting overly attached/flirty cus that would probably put her off.

But please be sure that being closer to her is really going to be a good thing for you, or if it’s going to hurt you more. Your well-being is way more important than she is. 

-Katya


1 day ago · 0 notes
#anon #crushes

Anonymous said, "I recently ended a very short relationship because I really had no interest in the guy, basically he was an asshole. Everyday he reaches out to me texts me good morning and good night and when I tell him its over he just says "No we are just having a fight, every couple fights." But I will never ever get back with him. Its gotten to the point that he is reaching out to my friends and family trying to befriend them. I dont know what to do but he wont leave me alone!! Thank you :* :*"

You need to be very forward with this guy. Tell him you’re never getting back together and you don’t want him to be a part of your life anymore and you never want to see/talk to him again. If he persists you can call the authorities because that would qualify as stalking. Stay safe!

-Katya



Anonymous said, "Why do I keep getting stretch marks on my boobs? And can I make them fade or something? Its so annoying :/"

You get stretch marks because that area of your body is growing faster than the rate of the skin surrounding the area, causing literal tears under the skin. So you get them cus your boobs are growing (and just fyi, I’m pretty sure every single person with boobs has stretch marks on them, cus they grow so fast during puberty). If you want to lighten them, rub cocoa butter on them every single day, it should help.

-Katya



Anonymous said, "Hello! I was wondering if you had any tips on how not to over think everything. I tend to and i know i do it but i just can't stop!!!"

It takes a lot of practice and effort. Overthinking tends to be a spiral; it starts off with a rational thought which evolves into something very overwhelming, or sometimes even unrealistic. Your attachment to this thought becomes obsessive.

The simplest but perhaps most difficult way is to recognize when you are going down that path and stopping yourself. When you realize you are overthinking something, give it recognition. Then, do something to stop it. One of the best ways to do this is through diversion or distraction. Do something else. Physical activity is especially effective, in my experience.

After stopping that obsessive thinking, come back to it later. Ask yourself, why am I obsessing over this? What can I do to put my mind at ease? Can I come up with a solution, or a way to make peace with this issue? Write down some things you can do. Oftentimes it helps to write things down; it can help us compartmentalize or temporarily let go of a stressful issue or thought. In a sense, we have put that thought somewhere else, and can come back to it at any time, so it doesn’t have to be held in our head constantly.

The biggest thing is realizing and accepting that so often things are out of our control. We can only do what we can, and then we have to allow things to happen as they may. Obsessing does not change the situation, and only serves to be self-destructive.

- Kit


2 days ago · 3 notes

Anonymous said, "Hi this is the anon who asked about the embarassing stomach growling, what does it have to do with my metabolism?"

If you happen to be an individual with a very active or “high” metabolism, your body burns calories at a faster rate than average. This means you will experience hunger more often in order to retain a high enough caloric intake for your body to continue its processes.

- Kit


2 days ago · 0 notes

Anonymous said, "Hi so my stomach constantly growls the period before lunch which is like 50 minutes. Idk if it has to do with my period but even like two weeks after my period it still growls and VERY loudly even when we're supposed to be quiet and it's so"

Embarassing I have tried drinking water prior to the class to line my stomach but it still growls.. I have lunch at like 11:55 and I have breakfast around 7:50, what could be going on?

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Most likely, it’s either hunger or your metabolism. I get super-hungry after just three hours after breakfast. Try snacking on some nuts or fruit, and you’ll be fine.

- Lina


2 days ago · 3 notes